What is the secret of mentally strong people and how can other people learn to focus better or develop this willpower?
I believe less in secrets. As mentioned: We can ALL train our willpower with a strong “WHY” like a muscle. In my opinion it is important to have a solid plan that has an effect if in the meantime we lose strength, will and courage. What can we consciously do when temptations get too great and bad bastards appear in the pack?
The “if – then” strategy is promising. Instead of making excuses, we prepare a plan B in writing from the start and arrange it in a readable place in the home or office. When the sofa has an almost magnetic effect on us after work, we read our motivational strategy aloud: ‘When I’m too listless to go to the gym, I turn up my favorite song blaring and leave the house to go to the gym. . exercise’. Or, “As soon as I crave chips and chocolate, I look back at my old photos of my dream body, imagine all the benefits of my fitness and lean body, and drink a tall glass of water.”
Another guarantee of success and protector of good intentions: looking for models and allies. Those who make a binding appointment to run on Saturday morning the night before are required to keep their word. And the apparently most trivial advice: start immediately. The incentive of short-term jobs and experience has shown that as soon as we are in action, we don’t stop anyway.
Being mentally strong is fundamentally good, because you should guide your strengths in the right direction and use them well for yourself. People are admired who have an iron willpower and seem to achieve any goal. At the same time, they sometimes come across as somewhat robotic, if not downright obnoxious. Are the boundaries of narcissism really fluid or do you have to classify them completely independently of each other?
I cannot judge on this. Personally, I believe in success and balance WITHOUT the illusion of self-optimization – this is my personal belief in my coaching, workshops and conferences.
The “Bigger, Better, Faster, More” attitudes are not to be judged: Discipline, improvement, simplification, time saving and ambitious goals are admirable and get us into the business. Small course corrections in everyday life are often enough to enjoy more balance and personal success away from the illusion of self-optimization. Seemingly mundane impulses often contain the greatest potential for greater well-being. I don’t think we need to keep track of everything …
What are your final 5 tips for greater mental strength?
1. Schedule regular rest periods, breaks and ‘things’ that are good for me, give me joy and give me strength.
2. Take care of myself: get enough sleep, drink water and eat well, exercise, go out into the fresh air, learn new things, break routines, single focus.
3. For example, write down three things every day that I did well: it doesn’t have to be a masterpiece at work or a mammoth project. For example, if we proudly baked our first bread, it’s a complete success!
4. Surround me with positive people instead of letting whiners and sacrificial lambs drain my energy.
5. Gratitude for one’s life and for being able to live here in peace, freedom and many of us in ‘abundance’. A luxury that only a few people on our planet allow themselves.
Interview: Tanja Seifert
Other exercises for mental training:
meditation and yoga
To be mentally stable requires a lot of mental calm. Ideally, you can learn this through meditation and yoga. You consciously sense the here and now and experiment with various relaxation exercises.
You can also train an alert mind with mindfulness exercises, in which you focus on a specific thing. For example, use all of your senses when you eat or notice exactly how your legs feel or how you walk when you walk.